| Name of Convention/Conference | Where | When | Title | |
| Endless PossiBIlities (bisexuality conf) | Princeton University | Nov. 15-17, 2002 | Keynote Speaker | |
| Marcon 39 (sf/f fantasy convention) | Columbus, OH | May 28-30, 2004 | Dark Fantasy Guest of Honor | Fancyclopedia |
| BECAUSE (bisexuality conf.) | Iowa State University | March 25-26, 2004 | Keynote Speaker | Iowa State Daily |
| BECAUSE 20th Anniversary | Minneapolis/St. Paul | April 2012 | Keynote Speaker | BiWomen |
| GKE:NE (BDSM/sff convention) | Warwick, RI | August 2014 | Guest of Honor | |
| GKE (BDSM/sff convention) | New Jersey | November 2014 | Writer Guest of Honor | |
| BDSM Writers Con | New York, NY | August 2015 | Keynote Speaker/Guest of Honor | |
| Rose City Romance Writers Annual Conference | Portland, OR | March 2017 | Writer Guest of Honor | |
| OUTWRITE LGBT Literary Festival | Washington, DC | August 2017 | Guest of Honor | |
| HELIOSphere (sf/fantasy convention) | Tarrytown, NY | April 4-6, 2018 | Writer Guest of Honor | Fancyclopedia |
| IMsL: International Ms. Leather & Bootblack | San Jose, CA | April 16-19, 2020 | Keynote Speaker | (COVID shutdown) |
| Bi Writers Conference | New York, NY | September 2021 | Keynote Speaker | (did not happen) |
| IMsL: International Ms. Leather & Bootblack | Piscataway, NJ | April 2023 | Keynote Speaker | |
| Editorial Freelancers Association (EFACon) | Alexandria, VA | August 2023 | Keynote Speaker |